10 Things to Know About Sexual Abuse But Are Scary to Ask

A comprehensive guide for teenagers about sexual abuse, covering its forms, effects, and prevention, with practical advice for recognising, addressing, and seeking support in difficult situations.

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Sexual abuse is a difficult topic to discuss, but it's important to understand what it is, how it affects people, and what can be done to prevent or address it. For teenagers, knowing the facts about sexual abuse can help protect yourself and others, as well as provide support to those who need it. Here are 10 things you've always wanted to know about sexual abuse but might have been too afraid to ask.

1. What Is Sexual Abuse?

Sexual abuse is any unwanted sexual activity, contact, or behaviour that is forced upon someone without their consent. It can include physical actions, such as touching or penetration, as well as non-physical actions, like sharing explicit images without permission. Sexual abuse is never the victim's fault, and it's a serious violation of their rights.

2. What Are the Different Types of Sexual Abuse?

Sexual abuse can take many forms, including:
10 Things You Always Wanted to Know About Sexual Abuse but Were Too Afraid to Ask

  • Contact abuse: Inappropriate touching, forced sexual acts, or penetration.
  • Non-contact abuse: Forcing someone to watch sexual acts, sending unwanted explicit messages, or taking sexual images without consent.
  • Online abuse: Grooming, sharing explicit images, or harassment via the internet or social media.

Recognising these behaviours is the first step in addressing and preventing abuse.

3. How Common Is Sexual Abuse?

Sexual abuse is more common than many people realise. In the UK, surveys suggest that around 1 in 20 children experience sexual abuse before the age of 18. These statistics highlight the importance of education and awareness to protect young people.

4. What Are the Signs of Sexual Abuse?

Recognising the signs of sexual abuse can help protect others. Common signs include:

  • Unexplained injuries or changes in behaviour.
  • Fear of certain people or places.
  • Sudden withdrawal from friends or activities.
  • Sexual knowledge or behaviour that is inappropriate for their age.

Not everyone will show obvious signs, so it's important to be aware and supportive if you suspect abuse.

5. How Does Sexual Abuse Affect Young People?

Sexual abuse can have a profound impact on a young person's mental and physical health, including:

  • Emotional effects: Anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem.
  • Trust issues: Difficulty forming healthy relationships.
  • Physical symptoms: Sleep problems, appetite changes, or unexplained pain.
  • Academic struggles: Falling behind in school due to stress or distraction.

It's important to seek help to address these effects and begin the healing process.

6. What Should You Do If You're Being Abused?

If you're experiencing sexual abuse, you don't have to face it alone. Here's what you can do:

  • Tell someone: Speak to a trusted adult, like a parent, teacher, or school counsellor.
  • Report it: Contact organisations like Childline or the police for support and protection.
  • Document it: If safe, write down what happened to you, including dates and details.
  • Seek support: Consider therapy or school counselling to help you process your emotions and begin healing.

You have the right to safety, and there are people who want to help you.

7. What Should You Do If a Friend Is Being Abused?

If a friend confides in you about sexual abuse, here's how you can support them:

  • Listen: Believe them and let them share their story without interruption or judgment.
  • Encourage them to seek help: Suggest they talk to a trusted adult or contact a support organisation.
  • Respect their choices: Allow them to decide how to proceed, but ensure they know help is available.
  • Be there: Offer emotional support and remind them that the abuse is not their fault.

Your support can make a huge difference in their recovery.

8. What Is Grooming?

Grooming is when someone builds trust with a young person to manipulate, exploit, or abuse them. It can happen online or in person and often involves giving gifts, attention, or affection to lower the person's defences. Recognising grooming early is essential to prevent abuse.

9. A Teen's Story

A 16-year-old from Manchester, shared her story: "A friend of the family started messaging me a lot. At first, it seemed harmless, but then the messages got weird, and he asked for pictures. I felt scared, but I told my mum, and she helped me block him and report it. It was hard, but I'm glad I spoke up." This story shows the importance of recognising red flags and speaking out.

10. How Can You Stay Safe?

Taking precautions can help protect yourself from abuse. Here are some tips:

  • Set boundaries: Be clear about what makes you uncomfortable and stick to your limits.
  • Be cautious online: Don't share personal information or photos with people you don't know.
  • Trust your instincts: If something feels wrong, speak up or leave the situation.
  • Know your rights: You have the right to feel safe and respected at all times.

Staying alert and informed is key to protecting yourself.

Conclusion

Sexual abuse is a serious issue, but by understanding what it is, recognising the signs, and knowing how to respond, you can help protect yourself and others. Remember, abuse is never the victim's fault, and there are people and organisations ready to help. Whether you're seeking support for yourself or someone you know, don't hesitate to reach out, help is always available.

How are you feeling?

It is really important that when we need help, we feel able to ask for it. This could be speaking to a parent, a close friend, a teacher or someone else you trust. Sometimes it can be really hard to share our feelings with other people but if we are feeling low or don't know where to turn, sharing with others is really important. Teachers will always take you seriously and listen to your problems in confidence if you approach them for help. Likewise, parents, siblings or friends will help you if you reach out to them.

If you feel like you can't speak to anyone you know, there are people and organisations that can help support you:

  • Childline - Call them on 0800 1111 any time of the day or night, every day of the week
  • NSPCC - Call them on 0808 800 5000 between 10am and 4pm Monday to Friday or email them on help@NSPCC.org.uk
  • The Samaritans – Call them on 116 123 any time of the day or night, every day of the week
  • SANE – Call 0300 304 7000 for support (4:30pm - 10:30pm every day)
  • Mind – Call 0300 123 3393 (9:00am - 6:00pm Monday to Friday)

*Sometimes we will use real life examples in our articles to aid understanding. When we do, names and ages will be changed.