How do you make new friends?

Learn how to make new friends as a teenager with these practical strategies: be authentic, enhance your social skills, and engage in activities that match your interests.

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The Importance of Friendship

Making new friends is one of those essential skills that not only improves your social life but also benefits your mental and emotional health. As you transition through different stages of your teenage years, the ability to make new friends becomes increasingly important, whether you're moving to a new school, starting college, or simply wanting to expand your social circle.

Understanding the Challenges

For many teenagers, the thought of making new friends can be daunting. Anxiety about acceptance, fear of rejection, or even just not knowing where to start can make the process seem overwhelming. It's normal to feel a bit nervous when approaching new people, but it's important to remember that many others feel the same way and are also looking for new friends.

Real-Life Impact of Friendship

Friendships play a crucial role in your development and overall well-being. They provide emotional support, help in building your self-esteem, and act as a source of encouragement and motivation. Having friends means you have someone to share your thoughts and experiences with, which is especially important during your teenage years as you navigate new challenges and changes. Additionally, friendships can significantly impact your academic and extracurricular activities by providing a great support network.

Strategies for Making New Friends

How do you make new friends?

1. Be Yourself

The most important piece of advice when it comes to making new friends is to be yourself. Authenticity attracts people and helps form stronger, more meaningful connections. Trying to be someone you're not is not only exhausting but obvious to others.

2. Participate Actively

Join clubs, sports teams, or other extracurricular activities that align with your interests. These are great platforms to meet people with similar interests and make it easier to start conversations and build relationships.

3. Volunteer

Volunteering is another excellent way to meet new people while also making a positive impact in your community. This could be anything from helping out at a local charity to participating in community clean-up days. It naturally brings together likeminded people, allowing you to bond over shared experiences.

4. Improve Your Social Skills

Refining your communication skills can significantly ease the process of making new friends. Simple skills like maintaining good eye contact, being a good listener, and showing genuine interest in others can make a big difference. There are many resources, including online tutorials and books, that can help you improve these skills.

5. Use Social Media Wisely

Platforms like Instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok can be useful for making connections if used wisely. Engaging with others through comments or direct messages can be a good stepping stone to real-life friendships. However, ensure that online interactions are respectful and a true representation of who you are.

6. Attend Social Events or Parties

Make an effort to attend school events or parties, community gatherings, or local meet-ups related to your interests. These events provide a relaxed environment to meet new people.

7. Be Open and Approachable

Maintain open body language, smile, and be approachable. Sometimes, making friends is as simple as being the kind of person others feel comfortable around.

8. Keep Trying

Not every attempt at making friends will be successful, and that's okay. The key is to keep trying without taking rejections personally. Each interaction is a learning experience that builds your confidence and social skills.

Conclusion

Making new friends requires patience, persistence, and a genuine interest in others. Start by joining activities where you can meet like-minded individuals, work on your interpersonal skills, and be open to new experiences. Remember, the most rewarding friendships often start from a simple hello. So next time you're in a situation with new people, take a deep breath, put your best foot forward, and just be yourself!

How are you feeling?

It is really important that when we need help, we feel able to ask for it. This could be speaking to a parent, a close friend, a teacher or someone else you trust. Sometimes it can be really hard to share our feelings with other people but if we are feeling low or don't know where to turn, sharing with others is really important. Teachers will always take you seriously and listen to your problems in confidence if you approach them for help. Likewise, parents, siblings or friends will help you if you reach out to them.

If you feel like you can't speak to anyone you know, there are people and organisations that can help support you:

  • Childline - Call them on 0800 1111 any time of the day or night, every day of the week
  • NSPCC - Call them on 0808 800 5000 between 10am and 4pm Monday to Friday or email them on help@NSPCC.org.uk
  • The Samaritans – Call them on 116 123 any time of the day or night, every day of the week
  • SANE – Call 0300 304 7000 for support (4:30pm - 10:30pm every day)
  • Mind – Call 0300 123 3393 (9:00am - 6:00pm Monday to Friday)

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